Q. I am a freshman and I came to Winston Salem State University because of the Nursing Program. I thought I would like it here but I feel that some aspects of the administration are very unorganized. I am just now receiving my refund check and I filled out my FAFSA at the beginning of this year. I am afraid that I will have the same problems every year I come here, so I am thinking about transferring. What should I do?
A. The only advice I can really give you is to have patience. You are a freshman and that means all these things are new to you, you just have to adapt. When there is a large amount of students all requiring the same services of course there will be delays. I can not speak for the administration about why it is taking so long to work out financial aid and housing situations. They are also going through change trying to accommodate the overwhelming amount of freshmen as well as returning students. There is no need to transfer unless you run into major problems. Transferring is not going to solve your problems because other universities and colleges all have some type of problem that students strongly disagree with. So running away is not an answer. Try to have a little more patience and don’t let yourself get stressed out about the administration problems; just try to focus on all the great opportunities that this school can provide for you.
Q. My boyfriend is the jealous type; he cannot stand to see me talking to other guys. I really like him, and even though we have only been dating about 7 months, I feel that we have a special bond. So should I just stop talking to my other male friendsjust to keep him from getting upset at me?
A. Your boyfriend has a major trust issue. Even though your relationship is still fairly new, there should be some type of trust built for one another. Why should you risk friendships with some good people just because he does not like it? There is no guarantee that you and your boyfriend are going to be together for a long time. With that being said, you should use your own mind to make your own decisions. It starts with him being jealous over little things and then it may progress to something else major. Your life, health and happiness should not be jeopardized because of one person. If he gets jealous over you talking to someone of the opposite sex, then maybe you should rethink your relationship.
Q. My roommate is getting on my last nerves! She uses my things when I am not there, she invites guests over to our room and they sit on my side of the room, she is on the phone at all times of the night knowing I have early classes in the morning, she uses my trash can but refuses to take the trash out. I feel like I am about to burst! What should I do?
A. Roommate problems are very common in college. There are many approaches you can take on handling this situation. First try talking to her to tell her about what you do and do not like her doing and ask her in a nice way to please try and not do those certain things. If this does not work then you go talk to your Resident Assistance or Resident Director. Inform them of the problem(s) that you encounter and let them know that you have already tried to speak to her and she still continues to do the same things. If all else fails, fill out a change of room request. If this person is that unreasonable and cannot act civilized, then you need to go. Think of this as a learning experience.